A Rabbit Tale

There has always been evidence of resident rabbits in our yard. In summer, they make their home under the two giant pines in the front of our house and come out to nibble at the tulips and whatever else strikes their fancy. In winter, they make their home under our back deck, but until this winter we have rarely seen them -- only a flash or a glimpse here and there. Then, last year, our children gave us a bird feeder for our anniversary. We hung it so that we could watch the birds from our breakfast table. This proved to be quite entertaining since we were housebound due to COVID restrictions. The birds have been coming in droves this winter, mostly sparrows and chickadees. 

Then, one day, a rabbit joined the birds. I thought it was a dog at first, because it was so big. It sniffed around in the snow picking up whatever seeds the birds had dropped.

One morning, instead of throwing my vegetable peels into the compost, I decided to toss them onto the deck to see if the rabbit would eat them. They were gone in no time. I put them right in front of the patio door and he sat there and munched away happily, completely oblivious of us watching him. He doesn't eat everything, but he loves carrot peels and his favorite is banana peels. I thought of all the frozen bananas we have that are not being used because guests are forbidden and so are church potlucks. I might just put them out for the rabbit. But, will he get too comfortable around our house and wreak havoc in spring and summer when I put out my plants? We'll have to wait and see!

                              

It didn't take long and there were two rabbits on our deck. We assume the second one is his mate.

Sometimes he does not treat her very well and she has to go down and forage for her own food in the yard below!

After friend rabbit has eaten his fill, he often picks a sunny spot under our composter and goes to sleep!

When I first had the idea of writing a blog post about our resident rabbits, I wondered if anyone would even care to read about  rabbits. Mostly they are just considered to be annoying garden pests, but they have kept us entertained and happy during this time of isolation and feeling housebound. I wanted to share that. 

 Something  about our rabbit tweaked a memory.  I recalled a postcard with a picture of a rabbit that had impressed me as a child. I googled it and there it was! 

The rabbit on the postcard is almost identical to our rabbit except for the long ears! (This makes it a hare, not a rabbit.)

Hardy and I are actually in prestigious company spending time watching our rabbits. Albrecht Dürer, German artist, printmaker and theorist of the German Renaissance (1471-1528), must have done so as well: He painted the above picture in 1502, long before the invention of the camera! You can see his unique signature and date of the painting just below the rabbit.  Dürer had to work from real life! I wonder how much time he spent painting the hare, never mind the self-portrait below!

Self-portrait of Dürer at age 26

Another person fascinated by rabbits and famous for her rabbit stories is Beatrix Potter (1866-1943). She  wrote and illustrated thirty books. Interestingly enough, she began writing them as letters, illustrating them and sending them to the children of her governess. The governess is the one who suggested the letters might make good children's books.

While thinking about rabbits, I remembered a German children's book my grandmother gave us about rabbits going to school. I loved that book and wished I still had it so I could look at it once more.
On a whim I googled the title and to my amazement, it is available from Amazon!

In 1924, Albert Sixtus got the idea for the book while playing in the garden with his son who was about to start school. School began at Eastertime so it made perfect sense to write a book about what it's like to go to school and combine it with a bunny and an Easter theme.
Sixtus wrote the book just after WW1 when life in Germany was bleak. Ninety-five years later this book is still popular in Germany. For Easter in 2019 a special anniversary edition was published. It is also available in English. I thought of purchasing it for my grandchildren, but alas, they have outgrown books like this! The youngest turned 11 in November and we missed a whole year of his childhood because of COVID. [On second thought, this book might no longer be politically correct. The cover depicts a teacher asserting his authority, which was fine in 1924 but would probably need to be portrayed differently today.]

Do you recall favorite books about animals from your childhood? What emotions did they evoke in you?

Living in the Moment

Last Saturday, Hardy and I decided to go for a ride and see and enjoy some local Winnipeg sights we had read about in the paper. We were astonished and blown away by what we saw!

This woman had filled her yard with snow bears. She began with one bear and then just kept making them. Above you can see a mother bear and her two cubs. Here are some more of her creations:

It was mid afternoon when we went to see the snow sculptures and the yard was crowded with parents and children enjoying the bears and having their pictures taken with  them. We noticed a box at the edge of the yard. It was an opportunity for people to give a donation to a local charitable organization. Children were happily throwing in coins. The sign said that over $4,500 had been donated so far. At dusk we drove by once more to add our donation to the box. There were just as many children and parents milling about as there had been earlier in the afternoon!

It did not matter to this woman that those beautiful bears she created would be gone once milder weather set in. She was living in the moment, getting some fresh air and exercise and sharing that moment with neighbours, friends, and anyone who wanted to stop to enjoy her bears. At the same time, she was giving people the opportunity to share with others in need. It occurred to me that this is how life should be lived!

There have been times in my life when I have been overwhelmed with grief -- suddenly, unexpectedly. (Those of you who have lost a loved one without warning will understand.) I am tempted to dwell in the past, to try to hang on to what I have lost. Rather, like the creator of the bears, I want to enjoy the moment!

Before long, what I have I cherish;

What might have been, fades away.

And I live again for the moment --

This precious and wonderful day!

(final stanza of a poem I wrote in May 1981, on the day that would have been our son Harold Mark's 12th birthday) 

Shadow Land

The month of January is a time for reflection. I am by nature someone who likes to do that; it has been a habit since my youth. Of course, I had no idea what life held in store for me, but I had my dreams.

Shortly after graduating from high school, I moved to Winnipeg from Alberta and got a job at the Christian Press, a small bookstore above its printing press. I was hired because of my knowledge of German. It was a bookstore that marketed English and German books. I could read any book I chose -- heaven was at my doorstep!

This place will always be special to me because it is where I first met the person with whom I would spend the rest of my life. He was a student at the nearby college. For two years (after only one date), we were continents apart and maintained a letter-writing relationship. (Hardy was in the Congo from 1965-1967 as a member of a Bible translation team.)

I clearly recall sitting at my desk on the last day of 1966 and writing a letter in which I promised my commitment and love. In that letter I shared a poem by Dietrich Bonhoeffer which we continue to read together on New Year's Eve. We love reading it in the original German but I found a good English translation to share with you. 

A bit of background about Bonhoeffer: A Lutheran pastor, theologian and anti-Nazi dissident, he was imprisoned by the Nazis on April 5,1943. For an entire year he was separated from his family, his friends, his fiancée, and his church. He spent the time behind bars in Berlin's Tegel prison for his participation in plots to kill Adolf Hitler. 

In the damp cold darkness of his cell, bereft of light, family, and friends, Bonhoeffer wrote his last theological work, a poem addressed to his fiancée Maria von Wedemeyer, entitled, Von Guten Mächten Wunderbar Geborgen. This poem has since been made into a hymn and can be found in the German Lutheran hymnal, the Evangelisches Gesangbuch. (An English translation follows.)

Bonhoeffer was executed by the Nazi SS on April 19,1945. He was 39 years old.

By Gracious Powers:

Dietrich Bonhoeffer's Prayer for a New Year

By gracious powers so wonderfully sheltered

and confidently waiting, come what may,

we know that God is with us night and morning, 

and never fails to greet us each new day.

The worries of the old year still torment us,

we’re troubled still by long and wicked days.

Oh Lord, give our frightened souls the healing

Which you’ve prepared for us in many ways.

And when this cup you give is filled to brimming

with bitter sorrow, hard to understand,

we take it gladly, trusting though with trembling,

out of so good and so beloved a hand.

Yet when again in this same world you give us

the joy we had, the brightness of your sun, 

we shall remember all the days we lived through

and our whole life shall then be yours alone. 

Bonhoeffer did not know what fate awaited him and where life would take him. He had his moments of despair, expressed in the poem Wer Bin Ich? (Who Am I?), of which the final two lines are:

Who am I? They mock me, these lonely questions of mine.

Whoever I am, thou knowest, Oh God, I am thine.

When we first read this poem to each other, Hardy and I had no idea what awaited us. In our latter years we have the privilege of looking back and seeing the path we walked; at times it was so difficult we didn't know if we would make it or not. This time of isolation during the Coronavirus epidemic is one of the more challenging times but not the worst.

We trudge along in the darkness and coldness and isolation,

wondering what lies ahead.

But we are not alone.

Yet when again, in this same world you give us 

the joy we had, the brightness of your sun,

we shall remember all the days we lived through

and our whole life shall then be yours alone.

It's a Small, Small World

Our "grandcat," daughter Heidi's Turbo, loves to crawl into small spaces, the smaller the better. He squeezes himself  into all kinds of boxes and baskets, kneads the ground beneath him and purrs contentedly, his tail curled around him. I look at him and wish I could be as content in my confined space as he is. Some days are better than others!

This Advent season seems different than any we have experienced while living in Canada. Added to the threat of the Coronavirus (which means we all stay at home, especially seniors like us who are most vulnerable), we experienced a medical emergency at the end of November. Hardy was not well for several days. With the hospitals overcrowded due to the epidemic, we were reluctant to go to Emergency, but on the advice of a good friend who is a nurse we went. He was admitted immediately as his condition was more serious than we realized. He had a strangulated hernia and a twisted intestine, and after they did all the tests, they did a laparoscopic procedure in the early morning hours. I could not go in to see him, but I spoke to a lovely nurse who took all my frantic calls and assured me that he was doing well. My sisters sent prayers and delicious noodle soup and muffins.

One morning I went to our mailbox just wishing for something to cheer me up. I reached in and pulled out a flyer. Then I felt something way in the back of the box. I retrieved a small blue envelope. It was from granddaughter Sasha (Turbo's caregiver) and it was addressed to "Oma." In it were some loving words and some hearts. It made my day!

Sasha's blue envelope reminded me of our years in the Congo (1965-1984). We lived for those blue aerograms from home, especially during the Christmas season. All we could do was write and receive letters, hoping that the mail would get through; sometimes it did and sometimes it didn't. 

Our situation now during the Coronavirus pandemic, with our province in lockdown, reminds me of the sense of isolation and insecurity I felt in Africa, during the early years, before I knew the language and the people. Although we took our anti-malaria pills faithfully, there was always the threat of malaria, particularly during the humid rainy season at Christmastime. However, we usually found something to cheer us up and make us laugh.
Our African gray parrot stayed with friends for a couple of months while we went home on leave. They taught him to say something he repeated over and over after our return: "Hardy has a pr... ." The parrot never finished the sentence and we couldn't understand what Hardy was supposed to have until our friends laughingly finished the sentence: "Hardy has a problem!" His problem at that time was a ruptured appendix requiring emergency surgery.

It's important to find things to make us laugh and feel loved while we are confined to a small space. We can't change the situation, so we might as well get comfortable like Turbo! 

Going for a daily walk helps, and many people in our area are doing that, especially during these exceptionally mild December days.
The other day I saw a couple taking their small child for a ride in a sled, the dad pulling and the mom walking behind. The little one kept falling off, not yet having a proper sense of balance. Finally the mom got on the sled as well and the dad pulled them both, end of problem!

 

On the same street is a huge teddy bear that opens its arms wide when I approach and closes them in a hug. Always makes me smile.

Then there are the "back-deck window visits" we get from our daughter Christine and family. We look at each other through the window and use our phones to communicate. They brought Hardy (who came home after three days in hospital) one of his favorite meals which he and grandson Ben often enjoy when they go out together.

When I think back to that first Christmas in Bethlehem, it seems that this year Christmas is much more like that first one. Confined to a small space, with the animals crowding around, a bed of hay for a cradle, far away from home and loved ones -- that was not the ideal way to celebrate a baby's birth. But then there were the shepherds and the angels and later the wise men with their gifts.

In the midst of uncertainty and confusion, may you experience some extra special blessings this Christmas season!

           

"Let Me Count the Ways"

How do I stay happy on bleak November days?  Especially when COVID-19 keeps me isolated?

"Let me count the ways," as the English Romantic poet, Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861), said about her love for Robert Browning whom she met after years of isolation and illness due to a spinal injury and a lung ailment. Her example of courage in the face of adversity gives me hope! (See How Do I Love Thee in "Sonnets from the Portuguese" -- 1850.)

I'm so happy that the weather, which was really ugly at the end of October, has changed and we are given  a few more days of sunshine and milder temperatures. What a miracle!

When we were digging out our winter clothes, granddaughter Kathryn happened to be here with us. She looked at the twin scarves Hardy and I had in the closet and said, "Oma, look at the brand names! These must have been expensive. Where did you get them?" 

I received them for Christmas one year from my students, mostly Korean and Chinese, whom I tutored privately at home and at Rockway Mennonite Collegiate. The memory of that Christmas party at our house makes me happy. And so does the touque I'm wearing, which says CANADA on it.

I have the privilege of being a citizen of this great country. I can go for a walk along the lake close to our house and meet fellow Canadians, all enjoying the last days of autumn. The Canada geese are mostly gone now, although there are still some flying across the sky making their strange honking noise.

As I walk I remember my loved ones, those who have gone before me and those who are still with me. I stop at the pussy willow bending low over the lake. It reminds me of my mother.
Earlier, in spring, there was a mother duck with eight ducklings under that willow tree (my mother had eight children). Later I only saw seven and I wondered what had happened to the eighth one.
My brother passed away recently, the first of us siblings.
I stop at the willow and I bless my mother and my three brothers.

I go around the bend and meet up with five pine trees, straight and tall, bravely enduring the cold days, and the colder ones to come. They are my four sisters and me, standing together, in good times and bad. We can't meet physically these days, and we miss each other. I stop at the five pines and I bless my sisters.

When I get home, the sun is setting behind the huge maple in our backyard. This maple has not yet dropped its leaves and only the leaves of one branch have changed color! I marvel at the bright oranges and yellows of the setting sun, and I thank God for my life, and that I am strong and healthy like this maple tree. I got the flu shot recently (for the first time in my life, as I'm not usually plagued by the flu) and I hope that the COVID vaccine will soon be a reality.

                

Our house is warm and cozy, and my autumn décor makes me happy. I brought my ceramic butterfly inside; it reminded of the day I went to Crock A Doodle with daughter and granddaughter to make it.

      We didn't carve pumpkins with our 

      grandchildren this year, but Sasha 

      sent a picture of the pumpkin she 

      carved at school. It looks like a 

      happy pumpkin!

I'll be baking  peppernut cookies early this year (it's a Christmas tradition). Two of our grandchildren in Ontario have birthdays in November and they will need a care package to cheer them up, since we haven't seen them all year!

My sister Ruth enjoys painting rocks and giving them as gifts to people. This one encourages me to remain positive during dismal wintry COVID days! It reminds me of my Dad who had a birthday in November. He was always my rock and continues to be that for me. November is also the month in which my parents got married. I say a prayer for them; a prayer of thanksgiving and gratitude:

Blessed are we who hold in our hearts

our beloved family and friends we have lost.

those who have loved so hard and endured so much,

whose earthly story has now been told.

O God, you alone know the whole of it.

You know their sufferings, their joys, their hopes,

their winding paths and every movement of their souls

and ours too, as our lives touched.

                                                           (excerpt from 'a blessing for the day we mourn our dead' by Kate Bowler)

"Life Sentences"

Something new for me during this COVID-19 time is a memoir-writing course I'm taking via Zoom through Canadian Mennonite University's 55-Plus Enrichment Program, Xplore. The instructor is Larry Danielson; thirty seniors are participating, of whom I know seven personally! 

Larry calls his course "Life Sentences."  He deserves an A for that title, which is pretty clever!  His wife Myra is also involved, helping to organize things. So he gets an A+ !

The first requirement for this course was to write a brief biography introducing ourselves to the class and to the instructor. Immediately there was a problem -- how does one summarize a life of seventy plus years in a few sentences? I wrote too much, I knew it was too much, but I checked with my copy-editor husband, and, yes, it was a bit long! So, reluctantly, I whittled it down to a few sentences and sent it off. Larry sent us copies of all the biographical blurbs. Every life is a story!

"Parents rarely let go of their children, 
so children let go of them. 
They move on. They move away. 
The moments that used to define them are covered by 
moments of their own accomplishments.

 
"It is not until much later, 
that children understand;
their stories and all their accomplishments,
sit atop the stories of their mothers and fathers,
stones upon stones,
beneath the water of their lives."

Paulo Coelho

Here we are with our mother on the way to Canada in Asunción, waiting for our visas. 

(Not sure why Dad isn't on the picture.)

I'm the taller girl, nine years old, at the top right beside my Mom.

Two more girls were born in Canada.

In 2009 I was finally at that point where I understood what Coelho so elegantly expresses in the poem above. Hardy and I went to Paraguay to attend the Mennonite World Conference. However, my main agenda was to go back to the place our family left when I was nine -- the village of Einlage in the Mennonite Colony of Neuland. I contacted former classmates who still lived there. Helga and her brother Gerhard were willing to take me where I wanted to go.

And so I went. And nothing was the same. Nothing the way I remembered it. The village was no longer there. The place where we lived was occupied but nothing about it was as I remembered it. I was profoundly disappointed.

We attended the conference after that. But I couldn't get over my disappointment. Browsing through a display, I came across a small green booklet. It was written in honour of the 25th anniversary of the founding of Neuland. I turned the pages. In it were all the stories written by the people who experienced what I remember as a child. 

The place became alive once again, and I knew that I had not imagined what I remembered. I was happy to find the story of my father and another man beginning to establish a church in that wilderness.

I regained my equilibrium.  That is the power of story-telling!

I knew I needed to harness that power in telling my own story. I began doing so by writing this blog. Posting once a month, eleven years later I have decided  to write my story for my grandchildren! Writing it for them helps me get rid of the invisible critic always sitting on my shoulder telling me what I'm writing is not good enough, doesn't measure up. I am amazed at what my parents were able to endure and how courageous they were! 

I'm writing the story by hand, actually printing it because my grandchildren don't read cursive. Our thirteen-year-old granddaughter, Anita's Lena Kate, designed a cover for the book and prints each chapter as I email it to her and the other grandchildren. She suggested that Opa write his story and designed a cover for him as well!

        

 

Lena Kate's book covers

Recently I got a call from a former client for whom I did some translating. As a young child she endured horrific abuse from a parent and has had recurring night terrors as a result. On the advice of her therapist, she began to write her night terrors in the form of a horror story ... and she no longer experiences these nightmares! She will be self-publishing the book in the near future with the help of our local McNally Robinson booksellers and is excited about doing so. 

Writing can be therapeutic. It is that for me. It's about "finding peace within yourself and offering it to the world," as Mennonite poet Sarah Klassen said in an interview about her latest book of poetry, The Tree of Life.

Have you told your story?

Sitting Down Quietly

Due to the COVID-19 pandemic restrictions, Anita & Bryan and their four children (our "Ontario family") could not join us for a planned cottage holiday at the end of July. Despite our disappointment, it was a wonderful week, away from the city, surrounded by nature.

One morning Heidi, our youngest, was standing at the kitchen sink by the window, when she excitedly motioned for me to join her. By the time I did, the beautiful humming bird she had just seen and wanted to show me was gone. She suggested I sit on the porch where she had seen it and it might come back.
I did and, before too long, there it was! Not only was it there, but it came up close to me and hovered around me as if I were a flower from which it could get some nectar. It was quite an experience.
I didn't capture the incident on camera, but it remains a vivid image in my mind and a reminder of what I miss when I don't allow myself to just sit quietly.

I believe my true nature is to be contemplative, but I was taught by example more than anything that this is a waste of time. My mother always had plenty for me to do; she did not look kindly on what she probably considered to be procrastination when it actually was contemplation!  Although
I must admit it was plenty of procrastination as well!

There was a butterfly garden at the cottage with lots of milkweed. I noticed our son-in-law, Chris, a botanist, walk around it quietly observing. He pointed to a butterfly chrysalis, hanging from a stem of milkweed, much resembling the leaves and stem from which it was suspended. It looked like a small treasure chest with a gold band of beads around it.

(Photo: Chris Friesen]

This was the first time in my long life that I had seen a chrysalis! I wondered, "What else have I missed"? I wanted very badly to see a monarch crawling out of its chrysalis but that didn't happen.

One morning, while sitting quietly on the dock, I heard a splashing sound. I looked and saw a strange and interesting creature that resembled a duck yet it was different. Its bill was longer and thinner and it dove from the surface. In all my seventy-plus years I had never heard of nor seen a cormorant. I learned that the Chinese and Japanese used cormorants for catching fish. They are actually more common in Manitoba than I realized and are considered a nuisance.

I did not know that bees sometimes make beehives on the ground. On a walk one morning while crossing a ditch, I almost stepped on one!

The German poet, Annette von Droste-Hülshoff (1797-1848), (whose impossibly long name I still have trouble spelling correctly!), spent hours in nature, literally with her ear close to the ground, listening to its sounds, becoming one with it. From this observation and quiet contemplation sprang beautiful lyrics that made her one of Germany's most famous female poets.

I fell in love with her work while studying German literature at the University of Waterloo. In 1992
I had the privilege of spending a summer in Germany close to the Münsterland where Droste-Hülshoff spent much of her life, and that inspired me to write my MA thesis on her work ("The Lady of Shalott" A Comparison of Selected Lyrics of Annette von Droste-Hülshoff and Alfred Lord Tennyson). She spent a great deal of her later life in Meersburg, South Germany, which Hardy and I were able to visit in 2011.

We have a new bird feeder, given to us by our children, and we have hung it so we can watch it from our breakfast table. This fall and winter we hope to see a variety of birds enjoying their feast, while we delight in observing them.

"Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, 

but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you." (Nathaniel Hawthorne)