Life-Changing Magic!

I just learned a couple of new words. They are Japanese. There is the word tsundoku, which means buying books and not reading them; having books piling up unread on shelves, floors or nightstands. The second word is randoku, which means random reading. By now you have probably guessed that the word doku means reading.

Both tsundoku and randoku are practised at our house. Hardy is guilty of the former and I of the latter. He reads a lot of newspapers and journals, but when it comes to books he just sort of collects them. He reads the introduction and the conclusion and the author's bio. I read just about anything I get my hands on.

I'm not so crazy about "how to" books, but someone picked one of those for our book club, so I'm wading through it. It is by a Japanese author, Marie Kondo, and she writes about "the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing." Kondo calls her book the "life-changing magic of tidying up." She must have done something right because it is #1 on the New York Times best-seller list and she has sold two million copies! It seems like a lot of people are very interested in this subject or maybe just desperate to clean up their messes!

What interested me more than her topic of decluttering and organizing was that Kondo claims that she has devoted more than 80% of her life to this subject, and that she started reading home and lifestyle magazines when she was five! From the age of 15 she undertook "a serious study of tidying that led to [her] development of the KonMari Method"! What kind of child does that, and what kind of teenager was she? Not the kind I know!

It got me to thinking about what I was doing at that age. I probably would have been fascinated with a home-and-lifestyle magazine not because of my need to be fastidious and organized but just because that type of life would be so new and strange to me. It would have been like reading a fairy tale because I didn't know anyone who lived like that. I was a child of refugees the first four years of my life, travelling from place to place and not knowing what a home was. When I was five, my parents built a one-room mud hut in the Paraguayan Chaco and we lived in it for four years. By the time we emigrated to Canada, I was nine and the second-oldest of eight children. It took a few years before we were settled and comfortable in our new surroundings. My parents struggled to keep us all clothed and fed and they did a marvelous job. They had no time to read books about decluttering and organizing!

I was a messy teenager. My sister and I shared a bedroom and, from what I recall, she was the tidy one. My locker at school was disgusting by the time the school year ended and I had to clear it out. At some point in my life that changed. I think it happened when I began my own household. I still would rather read a book than clean my house, but I know what needs to be done to retain my sanity. However, I'm not about to go through every item in my house to see if it gives me a "spark of joy" and toss it out if it doesn't, as Kondo suggests. I'm way too much of a frugal Mennonite!

I'm thinking that perhaps it would benefit all of us if we went through our mental storage, our spiritual house, and began to look at what we've collected there and what needs to be tossed or changed. Perhaps if we did that, we would stop collecting things that we think will make us happy.