When we moved to Winnipeg from Ontario in 2008, the house we purchased had a large crawl space. Hardy looked at it and said "this would make a great play area for the grandchildren." And that's what it became until the youngest were in their teens, and even then they enjoyed going down there and having fun together. This wonderful place has now been dismantled and all the toys and mementos (except a few cherished ones that must stay in the family) have found a new home.
It was a slow process and began like this
My nephew's wife is expecting their first child and there was going to be a shower. Instead of giving a card, a book donation was an option (used books were fine). I looked through all the books in the crawl space and found one about a dog called Farley (they are a dog loving family). My four sisters and I bought a baby carrying chair as a shower gift and wrapped it in an old quilt our mother had made. The Farley book went along as the card.
That book was the first item to disappear from our crawl space and got me started on sorting, tossing and keeping. It was a big job as there was lots of stuff down there. I filled bins and bins and dragged them upstairs into the garage. Then I called a friend who runs a day care for her grandchildren. She had expressed interest and said her husband would come with his truck and pick it all up. And he did, cheerfully loading it all up in his truck. I gave him some cookies! A small thank you for a big job done with a happy heart!
There were a few things I just couldn't part with.
All the art work we did stayed up on the wall for now.
The table and chairs my great-uncle made for us when we were small will stay in the family.
And of course, some favorite books. A book lover like me finds it difficult to give them up!
Several weeks after that big job was done, our oldest daughter and her husband rented a wet vac and we cleaned all the carpets in the basement and the main floor. Then my daughter and I decided to go out for supper. She picked a place not far from where I live and off we went. When we arrived, I couldn't believe my eyes. It was the little restaurant where Hardy and I had our last meal out together! We had such a good time and it was a memory that stayed with me, even though I had forgotten which restaurant it was. We felt his presence there with us!
"This quilted dragonfly will remind me to embrace change with grace and gratitude and will remind me of the Holy Spirit in my life".
Ah the memories in this project… and yet we can’t keep it all and decluttering is a good feeling especially when you pass things on to someone who you know will make use of them. A friend once told me to take pictures of all the things I had to part with when we moved. That way you will have the picture and can always look at it and recall the memory.
ReplyDeleteWonderful to have the support of your family in time of need! Keep pushing on🥰….Ruth Jansen
Thanks, Ruth, you have certainly been one of my encouragers and have mastered the art of decluttering!
ReplyDeleteIt must have been a bittersweet time for you, Elfrieda. Decluttering for me has always felt cathartic. I hope it did the same for you. Your kids are really showing up for you, just as you’ve always shown up for them💖. The restaurant 💔💔
ReplyDeleteIt was hard for me, but it does feel cathartic and I’m so grateful for the help from family, including you—shredding, thrift shop delivery, shopping, encouraging—so grateful!
DeleteElfrieda I can feel with you. It's wonderful when you can declutter by giving things to people who can use them, especially when they are family or friends to whom they are meaningful. Every time I did that was when I had to move. I'm happy for you that you can declutter without having to move. Doris
ReplyDeleteI’m not moving yet...we’ll see!
ReplyDeleteGreat job. It's very hard to downsize. I've done it 3 times already and keep at it. Blessings.
ReplyDeleteThis is my third time as well—a move from Congo to Ontario, another from Ontario to Manitoba, and now just getting rid of stuff which is no longer getting used! I suspect there will be another move, but I don’t want to think about it just yet!
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Oh, the treasures in your crawl space where you discovered miracles small and large! And generous soul that you are, you find joy in passing along some of them. I found especially poignant that you and your daughter ate in the restaurant where Hardy and you had your last meal together.
ReplyDeleteOnce again, you and I are in sync; my Wednesday post has the theme of miracles too.
Thank you, Marian, kindred spirit! Yes, that restaurant experience seemed like a miracle to my daughter and me! And of course, getting that crawl space cleared out and making someone else happy with what was there was a miracle as well!
ReplyDeleteLove this glimpse of what you've been up to, Elfrieda. Thank you for sharing this and blessing others as you pass on beautiful memories and things that may bring others joy. I'm grateful for you!
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DeleteThank you, April! It’s so great when the joy goes both ways. I’m so happy someone is willing to take my cherished things and they are so happy to receive them!
ReplyDeleteI am touched by the wall of children's art -- the one thing you were unable to part with yet. I too love seeing the colorful creations of my grandchildren on my walls. May they bring you joy and comfort in this great transition, just as your gifts to others are sharing the love that you and Hardy brought into this world.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Shirley. Hardy and I were blessed with eight grandchildren, four boys and four girls and they are almost grown up now, so I treasure the memories of their little hands creating all that art work!
ReplyDeleteI have found it hard to get rid of things that the kids and grandkids have used, even though they haven't been used in years. You're letting me know it can be done and all can be well! Thank you, Elfrieda.
ReplyDeleteWell, I’m not sure if it is all well, just had an “oh no!” text from a granddaughter in Ontario who wonders about the “cardboard clip-in purses (green and pink) that remind me so much of childhood at your house.” I have no idea what she’s talking about!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing, Elfrieda. I had to part with many young grandchildren books, toys and games when we sold our house in Calgary 3 years ago. It did help to take the sting out of it by giving much of it to the young neighbour kids next door. I kept some of the games I had hand made for them because that would have just been too painful.
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Thank you, Robbie for sharing your experience. It’s painful and cathartic at the same time, isn’t it? As are so many life events!
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