Remember when ... ?

Yesterday we went to Birds Hill Park and had a wiener roast at one of the campsites with our oldest daughter, Christine, her husband Mike, and our grandchildren, Kathryn (7) and Ben (13). The site we chose has a fire pit and a picnic table. There wasn't a soul around, except every once in a while a few horses and riders came by from the nearby equestrian training school. (We chose to picnic at the spot where the equestrian events took place during the 1999 Winnipeg Pan Am Games.)  

A weird feeling came over me as I was sitting at the picnic table. When I looked at seven-year-old Kathryn, it seemed as if I was looking at my childhood self. Her older brother Ben kept sending her to fetch the baseball he was batting and she ran after it, eager to please him, happy that he was playing with her for a change. Her blonde windswept braids were like mine when I ran with my older brother, always happy for his attention. I was somehow taken back to my childhood in Paraguay and I felt as if we were having a picnic there. 

Several things, other than watching Kathryn and Ben, reminded me of that time long ago and stirred my memory: The vast prairie and occasional scrub bush looked like the Paraguayan landscape I remember during some of my early years there (1947-1952, when I was four to nine); horses were part of our everyday existence, needed for survival; the place where our picnic table stood and where the fire pit was located had only dirt and no grass; we were sitting at an open fire and eating watermelon ...  Memory does strange things to people. When I shared this experience with my sister Irma, she suggested that my thoughts and feelings were perhaps due to the fact that I could finally relax after several very busy weeks and was now more in touch with my subconscious.

In his fascinating biography of his father, entitled The Constructed Mennonite, University of Winnipeg history professor Hans Werner writes about the tricks memory plays on us and how we play with memory: "Research related to memory suggests that the memories we store are fluid and amorphous and sometimes called up unconsciously by stimuli such as smell, sight, and verbal association. ... There is no single site for 'the memory' as if it constituted a discrete entity. Each act of recall is itself a new experience." (p.173).

During the Winnipeg Fringe Festival this summer, Hardy and I thoroughly enjoyed the theatre production Quilters, put on by the Shoestring Players. A grandmother is seen sorting through the many quilts she has sewn over the years. Each quilt rekindles a memory, representing some aspect of the hard life cycle of the pioneer woman, which the sixteen-member cast depicts in song. The subjects range from courtships and quilting bees to miscarriage and death; women of the time commonly endured ten or more pregnancies. Each block the grandmother sews becomes part of the fabric of a legacy quilt, gifted by the grandmother to her six daughters and grandchildren. I enjoyed the production so much that I enticed three of my sisters to come and see it with me again, and it became a family experience.

The recalling of memories included the celebration of the marriage of our niece Leanne Paetkau to Steven Saindon, on Hecla Island, August 24th. Leanne had tied small photos of her grandparents to the wedding bouquet, because she wanted these special people to be a part of this important day in her life.

My brother John and his wife Linda came from Texas for the wedding and requested to view a painting our family had commissioned as part of Ray Dirks' Road to Freedom exhibit, depicting my mother's side of the family. We call it The Three Katharinas. It tells the story of our great-grandmother Loewen-Epp, our grandmother Epp-Kroeger and our mother Kroeger-Neufeld. Ray used photographs and other memorabilia to create this work of art. He graciously consented to let us borrow the original painting for a brief time so family members can view it and call to mind the courageous women in our family. They endured great suffering through persecution, famine, loss of home and loved ones. In spite of all the tragedy in their lives, their faith in God remained steadfast. Our oldest grandchild is the only one of the grandchildren who has a vague memory of my parents (his great-grandparents). Our hope is that this painting will remind even the youngest of their family legacy.

(from left to right)  Ivan 6, Daniel 3, Markus 10, Julia 7, Sasha 5, Kathryn 7, Lena Kate 6, Ben 13