Wednesday, 2 October 2024

Stories

 

It's October and there is a chill in the air. The leaves are turning color. Nature is settling down for its winter sleep. This is the time for walking and the time to curl up in a cozy corner and read. I still like to hold a book  and turn the pages when I read. I have a library downstairs and have discovered that when I read a book for the second time after a number of years, it seems like I haven't read it before! A book speaks to me in the circumstances in which I find myself at the time of reading it. I have a granddaughter who grieves when she finishes reading a book she loves, because she can't bear it that the story is over!

Franz Kafka, (1893-1924), an  Austrian-Czech novelist and writer from Prague wrote : "If the book we're reading doesn't wake us up with a blow on the head, what are we reading it for? ...We need books to affect us like a disaster, that grieve us deeply, like the death of someone we loved more than ourselves, like being banished into a forest far from everyone, like a suicide. A book must be the axe for the frozen sea inside us."
 


A book did that recently  for me as I read it for the second time.  I  read it years ago. 

Martel tells the story of a young boy who is in search of spiritual meaning, even though his parents are secular. He finds himself stranded on a lifeboat, the only survivor of his family who were on a ship headed for Canada. Some of the zoo animals his father had raised are also on the ship, and several end up in the lifeboat with him. 

Having just experienced the loss of a partner of over fifty years, I identified with this boy and his struggle to face overwhelming fear and anxiety, while at the same time dealing with his grief. It was a cathartic read! 

If reading and writing isn't your thing, there are other ways of telling and receiving a story. I have a brother-in-law who does intricate carvings from pieces of wood and acorns and seeds. The one below 
he called Ein Spaziergang.  (A Walk). He made it for me after Hardy passed away. The body is made from oak acorns Hardy and I picked up in Chortiza, Ukraine, while visiting the place where I was born. The base is made from a piece of shale found at Falcon Lake. My brother-in-law calls his creations J-Korns by Jansen. Each one is accompanied by an explanation. The explanation for the one below:

A J-Korn couple is enjoying a walk on a beautiful spring day in Kornucopia. He is supporting himself with a walking stick and she is carrying a parasol to shade herself from the sun. 


One of my sisters creates beautiful quilts for her numerous nieces and nephews. She tells the story through symbols. The one below is in the process of being created for one of my daughters. The middle panel shows a church to indicate her calling as a pastor. The bottom panel has her and her husband's initials. The candles and the teapot show that they are relaxing together. 







Nature tells its own stories.
 
 I wonder what this tree is telling us?



19 comments:

  1. Thank you for this Elfrieda! I recently read a book that did the same for me. It was like a sledgehammer hit to the head. It was late at night and I immediately sent out a text to my friend, Helene. We had a little midnight text conversation about it. I felt eternally grateful that night for good friends and good books. And when I read your blogs or see you for coffee or shopping I am eternally grateful to have you for my sister!

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    1. The two hearts are from me!!😘

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    2. Good friends, good books and sisters who are friends as well! Can’t get any better than that! Thank you, Marge! I am blessed.

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    3. And thank you, Heidi, for your two hearts! Daughters and sisters...I am blessed again!

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  2. Elfrieda …. you are so right when you talk about different ways to tell our stories. Wally certainly does that through his acorn art & Hertha through her quilting.
    I feel like you about books ….opening them , turning the pages, the nostalgic smell of old times when you open an old book. I recently found an old set of THE BOBBSEY TWINS at the Thrift Store where I work every Monday. The smell of the pages brought back so many memories of school and the library in Didsbury where we spent our childhood.
    I too am often sad at the end of a book & want it to go on and talk to someone about it. I have a wonderful bookclub where we have some great discussions about the books we read.
    Books have always been a lifeline for me and taught me more than I ever learned in a school setting. Thanks for a great blog …love your picture at the end.

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    1. Thanks, Ruth. You also tell stories through all the beautiful cards you make for so many different occasions! Especially the ones we receive on our sister birthdays!

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  3. I also appreciate how we share our stories when we get together on Thursdays or talk on the phone …it’s important for us to hear each other and pass these stories on to the next generation❤️Ruth Jansen

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  4. It's been a while since a book captured me in the way you describe, Elfrieda. I am reading more nonfiction these days. Trying to learn what is causing so much political polarization in the US. Hoping it doesn't migrate to Canada.

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    1. We have our own Trumpishness here in Canada, Shirley. It seems to be an all pervasive malady these days. People have forgotten what it is like to have the whole world involved in war! I fear for the safety of our children and grandchildren!

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  5. "I'm so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers," a quote from the beloved author of Anne of Green Gables. I always enjoy your harvest of family lore and quotes from book, including from Kafka, "A book must be the axe for the frozen sea inside us."

    Thanks for including art from Kornucopia and your sister's symbolic quilts. Brava to you for adding the photo of you walking so purposefully. :-D

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    1. Lucy Montgomery had such a lovely way of expressing herself. One of my favorite authors!

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  6. I always enjoy reading your blog entries, Elfrieda. Books used to be a huge part of my life and I still love the smell of them and I always seek out libraries and book stores. There came a time though when I had difficulty functioning in my day to day life because of how immersed I was in a fictional one. Then, after going through chemo, I had difficulty even focusing on a book. Now, I'm happy to putter away with paints and listen to comedy podcasts.
    The J-Korn couple are precious! That is a powerful photo of you walking!
    Love, Robbie

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    1. Thank you, Robbie. If I ever lose my eyesight and can’t read anymore I think I will go crazy!

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  7. Dear Elfrieda -
    I love reading your blogs. A friend once told me that writing is a one of the best ways to process loss. I followed that advice not in blog form but in a book form only for my family. During that time I realized how blessed I was to have had a friend, mentor, adviser, encourager to use my gifts as the Holy Spirit led. I hear this from your blogs and I also hear Hardy's love and support words to you. Thank you for sharing your unique path of grief. I must say that for me the grief path has become a thankful path as well. I sense this from your writing, even though it is still very fresh. Hardy's shirt will remain a memory!!!!!!!

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  8. Thank you, Helen! You know the path I’m walking and how rough it is at times. But we have a comforter and a guide who will not leave us or forsake us!

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  9. Thanks for hte “hearty” response!

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