Friday, 9 February 2024

Let Words be Your Weapons

 As I've mentioned in previous blog posts, Hardy, my  husband who passed away recently, kept everything. I did not want to burden others with having to go through all that some day, so I tackled it. I sorted, threw out, and packed boxes for the thrift store. I went through the boxes in the garage first, as I didn't want to work in there during the cold winter days.  Then I turned my attention to the store room in the basement. 

There was evidence of a mouse invasion and grandson Ivan set the traps. We caught five mice and I mustered up all my courage to dispose them into the garbage bin! The traps have remained empty since then, but I knew cleanup had to happen and I would have to go through the boxes. The recycling bin has been full to overflowing every week. Mostly Hardy  kept old newspapers, magazines, yearbooks, etc.;  things that no one else will care to keep and mice will claim for their nests.  Among all that, however, there are treasures. Below is one of them, and my heart broke as I read this document. 

My mother-in-law  told me the story, but here it is in black and white. The document below, written a year after the event,  is a copy of an appeal to the German government for compensation of accidental deaths of three family members during the bombing of a train on which they were travelling. Hardy's aunt, Kaethe Penner Schroeder,  three children and a friend were fleeing their farm  in  Poland in March, 1945, due to the Russian invasion. She was 47 years old, her daughter, Brigitte was 17, her second daughter, Hannelore was 11 and her son Eckart was three. 




 A bomb hit the train and Hardy's aunt states soberly that her eleven year old daughter, Hannelore, was beheaded and died instantly; her seventeen year old daughter, Brigitte, had severe stomach injuries and died ten hours later. Eckard, the three year old was uninjured. She, herself, received a slight head injury. Her friend also died at once. 
Although this is not part of the document, I believe there was a Downs Syndrome son who mysteriously disappeared earlier and was never found. 
My heart breaks for this woman who lost her children under such tragic circumstances. The oldest son, Reinhard, was not on the train, and later became a vineyard farmer in South Germany. The youngest son, who survived without injuries, became a medical doctor in North Germany. I have met them as well as their father, who remarried. Somehow they carried on. For Tante Kaethe it all became too much to bear and some years after this event she took her own life. 
This is just one tragic story of innocent civilians caught up in a war that has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with domination and power! It is not something that just  happened in the distant past, it is happening right now in Israel and Palestine, in Russia and Ukraine. Our world is at war! Lives are shattered, innocent children are paying the price! Do we just accept this as part of the human condition? What can we do?


If nothing else, we can educate ourselves, we can read! I just finished reading The Book Thief by Markus Zusak, and realized that I'm reading it for the third time! My last reading was in November, 2013. The story takes place in a small village in Germany where a little girl finds a home after she has experienced a similar train bombing as the one described above. She loses both her mother and her little brother who dies in her arms. She struggles with nightmares but overcomes them as she listens to her adoptive father's accordion music and learns to read, stealing books first from a grave digger and later from a wealthy woman who has a library in her home. 
Death is the omniscient narrator in this book, but Death is not depicted as cruel and someone to be feared. Rather, death is the one who tenderly takes the departed home. I am comforted by that image as I recall Hardy's peaceful passing. 




"Let words be your weapon, stories your shield, and hope your stolen treasure. Remember, when in the grip of a book, a story can set you free". (From a book review of The Book Thief.)




28 comments:

  1. Thank you for your stories and hopeful words, I appreciate them so much!

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    1. You are welcome! Thanks for touching base.

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  2. Such tragedies, inhumane treatment of each other, born of fear, have always and will always haunt our species. And the next will be no less haunted. I am glad that Hardy passed peacefully. He was a dear soul.

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    1. Thank you, I appreciate that kind comment about Hardy. Yes, fear can cause extremely negative reactions, the “fight or flight” syndrome!

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  3. I heard the story of the train bombing directly from our cousin, Eckart, several years ago. That, and many other stories of the war years, make me more determined to treat every other person with dignity and show them God's love. Only He can remove the pride and hatred that brings war.

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  4. Thanks for sharing that, Pat. Eckart never spoke of it to me, and we had several visits together, especially when I attended the Goethe Institute in the summer of 1992, as they lived close by in Duesseldorf.

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  5. 0h Elfrieda….the horrors of war😢what a tragic story for this family😢We can learn so much about each other through our stories…let our stories set us free!
    I read THE BOOK THIEF too and watched the movie with Cohen….worth the read!

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    1. Yes, that book is worth reading several times! I love how it portrays death. Nothing to be afraid of!

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  6. What a sad, sad story. How can we help? Yes, educating oneself is important. I just finished reading "Unprooting the Olive Tree" about the middle east written by Philip Johnson. It is a novel based on true facts. A very sad situation and the civilians, innocent people, experience the losses and homelessness. Thank you, Elfrieda for sharing your thoughts and experience with "clean-up".

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    1. Thanks for that book recommendation, Helen! Will definitely have to look into it!

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  7. “The Book Thief” was one of my all time favourite books. Thank you for reminding me of it. I’m going to give it a second read as well. It always astounds me how history repeats itself and how humans everywhere allow it to be repeated. I wonder what it will take to change that.

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  8. I always think about that scripture verse in the book of Ezekiel where God talks to Ezekiel about removing the heart of stone and exchanging it for a heart of flesh. A newer translation is ‘taking away the stubborn heart in exchange for a new heart.”

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  9. Elfrieda, thanks for reminding me of The Book Thief. I didn't read the book, but I did see the movie. And now Stuart and I are watching Masters of the Air on Apple+. Wars never are worth their cost in human life and human spirit. We never learn that. And each generation's weapons are scarier than the last. Like you and the author of The Book Thief, I turn to words and to friends when life seems impossibly weighted on the side of evil. I am so glad Hardy's passing was gentle. I love this sentence: "Rather, death is the one who tenderly takes the departed home. I am comforted by that image as I recall Hardy's peaceful passing." If we do not fear, even death, we are much harder to manipulate in the time of the autocrats.

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  10. Shirley, you have such a good way of putting things into perspective! Thank you!

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  11. Elfrieda, thank you so much for sharing this story in your blog. I have enjoyed all your blog entries but this one has touched me in a special way, because I can identify with it. Seeing what is happening in our world now is very frightening and it makes me wonder what I can do about . I agree with you in the importance of treating everyone with dignity and respect. How can we get the world leaders to see that as well.?

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    1. I wish I had the answer to that question! One thing I think might improve the situation is to have more female leaders like Angela Merkel about whom I blogged some time ago. By nature, as child bearers, they have more compassion, but there have been very cruel ones as well. We need God’s Spirit guiding us, instead of our own flawed nature!

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  12. Wards can be weapons, your title suggests, but so can a kind heart, a sharp mind, and a compassionate spirit, which have motivated you to set aside your own grief and pain to empathize with the suffering, even those in other eras. I’m glad Hardy had a peaceful passing. You are honoring the memory of a man of integrity in the best way possible: finely curated words. Blessings to you. . . and to that grandson Ivan who set mouse traps.

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  13. Thank you, Marian! I miss Hardy’s editing, he always took time to do that with my posts. I caught one “oops” after posting! The document I displayed was not a plea for compensation, but simply a notification of death of the individuals (“Todesurkunde” is the German word for it).
    That grandson, Ivan, is very much like his Opa, very caring, making sure everyone is safe and looked after. I’m looking forward to seeing him and his sister and their mom this afternoon.

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  14. Thanks for sharing this, Elfrieda. There has always been so much violence in the world and nothing seems to ever change that. I feel helpless. I do feel very grateful to have been born in Canada and yet guilty to be born with such privilege. I recently watched Bernie Sanders interviewed on a late night talk show. I marvel at and appreciate how some people can spend their lives actively working to make a difference.

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    1. Don’t feel guilty, just do your part, from your privileged position , to make this world a better place for those less fortunate.

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  15. I found this so very moving!! It is one of so many terrible war stories. My father's sister and her daughter were captured in Poland and sent back to Kazakhstan. They survived, but had some terrible years. Because my father was not well, I was the one fortunate person in my family to meet my aunt in 1993. My aunt died just before she and her daughter were ready to move to Germany in 1999. So many tragic stories.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your story. We need to hear these stories and realize the devastation caused by being hungry for power!

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  16. It was so moving to read this last interesting but horrifying blog of Hardy’s aunt and family. It brings to mind the stories I am reading now in German , “ Mennonitische Maertyrer” ( Mennonite Martyrs). It tells , sometimes in too gruesome detail, the terrible atrocities our forefathers faced in Russia. What stays most with me though is the incredible faith that sustained them and that they were unwilling to deny.

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  17. Before I went to school I discovered a book my father had, called “Maertyrer Spiegel” with illustrations of the early Anabaptists and how they were killed for their faith in the most gruesome ways. It left a deep impression on my young mind. Something like this must be very important if you are willing to die for it!

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  18. Another correction to my post: I should have called the area from which they fled “West Prussia” not Poland.

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  19. I have watched the gripping movie "The Book Thief" 3 times. Now I need to read the book.

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    1. I think the book will be better, although I haven’t seen the movie.

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