The Winnipeg Free Press, which I read daily, caught me by surprise recently. I noticed an article entitled In Transit which happens to be the title of my blog. However, they were not publishing my blog postings but beginning "a special series on the state of the city's public transportation system."
Although I haven't used the bus for years, after graduating from high school, I used to take it quite regularly to my work at a Christian book store . Now my oldest grandson takes it to his university classes and wherever else he needs to go.
Here's a quote from the newspaper article that caught my eye and tugged at my heart strings:
"It's the route that exists to break your heart on the darkest of mornings and the coldest of evenings, in the pounding rain and cold wind. You see the shape of a bus in the distance heading towards you, and you can't make out the number to see if it's yours. It passes. It isn't yours. The only thing worse is watching the lights of your bus pull away from the curb before you can get to it. . . The bus has 10,000 stories, both inside and out, and a front-row seat to every one of them.
Here's one of my bus stories:
I remember going home for Christmas, by Greyhound bus from Winnipeg to Alberta the year I graduated from high school. The song "The Little Drummer Boy" was playing at the restaurant where we stopped. When I hear that song I'm always back there again.
At home everything was different. My teenage brothers, who picked me up at the train station, had grown lean and lank. My middle sisters were approaching their teen years and my baby sister was about to enter grade one. The sister next to me was graduating from high school in spring and would join me later in Winnipeg. Dad promised me that the whole family would be moving there soon.
Back in Winnipeg after Christmas, I got off the Grayhound on Main Street around midnight and tried to get a bus back to my relatives where I was staying. I finally did catch a bus which proved to be the last one. By that time I had no feeling in my hands and feet. Just numbness. And my mind felt numb as well. There was no one to welcome me back as I quietly slipped into the house and into my room. That was the coldest and loneliest time of my life.
Here's one of Hardy's bus stories:
It is a sweltering hot Sunday. Hardy is boarding a bus on a busy street in Kinshasa, in the Republic of Congo. He plans to attend a church service together with his African companion who will preach the sermon. It seems everyone is getting on this bus and there are no rules about overcrowding. People are packed in like sardines. Some are still trying to get on as the bus leaves and hanging on wherever they can get a grip. A Congolese Mama towers over Hardy, on her head a bowl full of market produce . She manages to balance it there without effort until he accidentally steps on her foot. "Mundele, sambu na inki nge kele awa na bus? Nge fweti baka voiture!" ("white man, why are you here on this bus? You should be taking your car!") She scolds him, but then laughs, raucously, at the sight of this short white man on the bus, speaking her language! Hardy got a new name that day. "Mundele ya bus." White man on the bus."
Hardy returned from that tropical steam bath to marry the girl who tried, half frozen, to catch a bus at midnight. They were married mid January, fifty six years ago today, and the weather was as bad as that night when she almost froze trying to catch the bus! But for the next fifteen years, living close to the equator, which was almost like living in a sauna, she was never cold or lonely again.
This anniversary year will be different. Hardy has gone ahead of me again.
I didn't know much about the Congo, and when I arrived it was totally different from anything I could have imagined.
I suspect that when I join him where he is now I will be surprised !
But I have a feeling that, like in the Congo, there will be music, and dancing, and light.
Oh Elly, I believe you will be wonderfully surprised and entranced at that next reunion! I too have memories of riding the bus in my childhood to go to my 8pm, violin lessons at Mount Royal College downtown Calgary...no matter
ReplyDeletethe weather :) I wish you a good New Year!❤️
Thank you, my Kroeger cousin!
DeleteI thought of you this morning, Elfrieda when I looked at my calendar. I remembered the day, 56 years ago when I was 10 years old, lighting the candles for your wedding. Where has the time gone?!
ReplyDeleteYes, you and Karin were so cute! I just came across a photo of you lighting those candles and you looked like you were having fun! That was the first wedding in our immediate family! And time flies by!
DeleteOh mama - love this so much!!
ReplyDeleteThank you, dear Christine!
ReplyDeleteThis is truly beautiful, Elfrieda. The stories, the writing, the reflection.
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DeleteAbsolutely beautiful! Thank you for sharing these stories from the heart. We continue to keep you in our prayers and pray that you feel God’s presence, comfort and strength on your anniversary and in the coming year. Keep sharing your memories. They are treasures. Much love, Kathy
ReplyDeleteThanks for your prayers, Kathy. I feel them!
DeleteElfrieda, a rainbow of emotions here. You write beautifully.
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DeleteThank you , Elfrieda. It is so touching the way you write about reunion. Yes, the next reunion will be for keeps. I think Jake and Hardy are pontificating in Kituba with Harold and our sons watching.
ReplyDeleteOh yes! They are with the little boys!
DeleteYour stories including Hardy make him feel close and real though I never met him. In fact, I've never met you either, Elfrieda. You show me that that the bonds of Christian love bridge all barriers--of time, of space. Keep sharing your memories! :-D
ReplyDeleteI feel as if I know you, too, Marian. We started blogging about the same time!
DeleteI love the way you weave your and Hardy's bus stories into that lovely conclusion!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Dora. Coming from you, the published writer, that is a real honor!
DeleteOh Elfrieda …I remember that day well. I felt so honoured to be in your wedding party and so elegant in my blue velvet dress. Wishing you an anniversary of beautiful memories❤️
ReplyDeleteOh yes the bus stories ….love the contrasts.
I remember many long rides on the bus from Thompson ( the cold north) to Winnipeg sitting beside people and listening to their stories and sharing mine. Always enjoy your stories. ❤️Ruth
Thank you, Ruth, my dear sister, who loves stories as much as I do!
DeleteBeautiful stories of you and Hardy! I look forward to your blog, you are a great writer!!
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Thank you, Helen!
DeleteI hope you and Hardy made a connection on this anniversary. Story is a powerful bus to connect us while we are living in separate worlds. May the experience of writing and receiving comments, expanding your memories, help fill your aching heart.
ReplyDeleteI was together with my children and grandchildren today and I shared some stories and cards and letters that Hardy kept in one of the boxes I just went through. They gave me flowers—yellow daisies. Hardy loved flowers and always made sure I got them on special occasions, and sometimes “just because”....
DeleteI’m sitting in steamy Kinshasa as I read your stories. (This mundele doesn’t take the bus here!)
ReplyDeleteI’m thinking of you remembering (can it be celebrating?)your first anniversary without Hardy.
And my bus story—when I was going to Bible college in Omaha, I on occasion had to take Greyhound home to Wichita for holidays. On one occasion, I knew in my heart that I should have stayed in Omaha and worked, but I wanted to be with my family for the holidays. As the bus approached a set of railroad tracks out in the country, it slowed, then rolled onto the tracks and stalled. I was feeling a bit like Jonah when he got on the boat going the opposite direction that God wanted him to go. The bus started again after several minutes, without throwing me “overboard,” but I have never forgotten that bus ride.
I had a nice evening with my kids, and they brought flowers and made supper, so it was a kind of celebration, tinged with melancholy of course. And it’s much quieter when he isn’t there in person.Thanks for sharing your bus story. Scary to be stranded on the tracks like that! Only courageous souls take the bus in Kinshasa! Hardy was one of them!
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ReplyDeleteI love these stories about taking the bus! Earlier in my university days I relied on city transit to go everywhere. From whichever apartment I was in to university, to Oma and Opa’s, to the grocery store, to my job, to visit friends, to Omi and Opa’s too, and to student teaching!! That bus pass was essential. Once I remember accidentally running into Oma and Opa on the same bus.❤️
I would take the bus any day if it meant I could see Oma and Opa on it!! Thanks, for sharing your bus story!
ReplyDeleteI love this, Elfrieda. It's Elsie K Neufeld. Not sure how to comment
ReplyDeleteThank you, Elsie, for your encouraging comment. If you identify yourself, like you did, then I know who it’s coming from, even if it says anonymous
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