Friday, 28 November 2025

I Light A Candle


It's November, and the air is getting chillier, but I've kept up with my daily walks along the lake close to my house. Recently as I was walking I noticed a clump of feathers lying in the grass. I thought at first it might be a dead bird but on taking a closer look I saw that it was part of a wing, that of a goose. I didn't see any other parts of a goose to indicate it had died. The geese were staging to begin their long journey south. I wondered if a goose with a broken wing would be able to fly. Would the other geese be able to assist it? Probably not.



This broken wing reminded me of someone I knew when we were refugees  in South Germany.  I was a three years old and my little sister was one. Wanda Kellermann was in her early teens and volunteered to help by babysitting my sister and me. We have no memory of that time but our mom often talked about this young girl and how she had enjoyed taking care of us. Although she was only a teen, she suffered from rickets, brought on by lack of proper food. When our family left for Paraguay Wanda was heartbroken and couldn't stop crying. She and her mother and sister stayed on at the camp until they were able to find refuge in Canada. For many years we lost contact with Wanda.


Two bosom pals: Wanda and my sister, Imy.

Years later after I was married and living in Ontario we were visiting with friends. My friend, Helen, received a phone call. When she returned she told me that she had been chatting with someone from Manitoba by the name of Wanda Kellermann. She told me that they had been close friends while at the refugee camp and had kept in contact all these years. My ears perked up. Could it be the same person who loved us and took care of us at the refugee camp? It was! And we had a common friend in Helen, whom I met much later in life. Both of them had that same loving cheerfulness about them and I felt blessed to have known them!
When I moved to Manitoba my sister and I visited Wanda in her apartment. Her arthritis was giving her a lot of pain, but she was cheerful, and so happy to see us! Often we chatted on the phone. She told me that her father had been sent to Siberia by the Communists and she, her sister and her mother had to manage on their own. They made a life for themselves in Canada.




A few days ago I opened the paper to read the obituaries, and to my shock, Wanda's picture was there. She had reached the age of 92 and lived a full and happy life in spite of the daily pain she dealt with. She flew with a broken wing, right into heaven where she had longed to be for some time. Her dear friend, Helen passed away a few years before she did. I hope their spirits have a joyful reunion! I light a candle for the love these two friends had for each other and for the joy they have brought into my life!



We all deal with brokenness and pain, but we can help each other fly! The love we show to even those who are too little to remember is not lost.





A painting by Faith Love-Robertson entitled "Gran & Me"



This little granddaughter is now a teenager. I hope she will fly!














 

28 comments:

  1. The picture of Wanda and your sister must be precious to you. I'm glad you found Wanda many years later. It's always special to rediscover an old friend. When I moved back to my home town of Lititz, PA, I rediscovered several classmates and former teachers I had not seen for 55 years. These rediscoveries enrich the experience of aging and increase owr awareness of the great circle of life that will carry us into heaven.

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    1. Thanks, Shirley. I’ve discovered as I age the past becomes more precious to me. Many things I’ve forgotten and I’m amazed when I go through diaries and old letters at what life threw my way and how I was able to deal with it. Through it all, the steady and tender guide of the shepherd leading me to still waters.

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  2. What a lovely tribute to a very special person in your life! Fly free Wanda🪽

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  3. I just talked with Wanda’s sister and she told me some more things about Wanda—how courageous she was in spite of all the challenges she faced. Now she is free!

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  4. How lovely to find Wanda again -- and what a sweet photo of you and your granddaughter.

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    1. Thank you, Dora, they are so cute at that age! She’s grown tall and lovely now!
      Finding Wanda was amazing!

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  5. I love how you relate your observations of nature to people and events in your life. I'm glad you reconnected with Wanda.
    Robbie

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  6. Thanks, Robbie. Nature is such a great teacher!

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  7. How wonderful that some of our connections stay with us forever. You captured Wanda’s spirit so well in your blog. Fly high Wanda👼🙏❤️ Ruth

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    1. I will miss her phone calls! Last December she told me she wouldn’t make it to the next Christmas or her birthday which is also in December. She almost did!

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  8. Congratulations to you for keeping up with your daily walks along the lake close. We both know that "motion is lotion" to our joints!
    I love the lesson you gave us from the broken wing you noticed.
    Friends we gain along the way enrich our lives as Wanda Kellermann did for you. While we are here, though, we can teach our grandchildren how to fly! Lovely post as always, Elfrieda!

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  9. Thank you, Marian. My eight grandchildren, four girls and four boys, are the lights and loves of my life, and I thank God for each one of them! I hope they fly!

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  10. We enjoy your blog posts. This one about Wanda was special. Thank you for it. We wish you a Blessed Christmas! Norm & Vi

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    1. So nice to hear from you two! Wishing you a wonderful Christmas as well!

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  11. What a lovely image and tribute. ♥️

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  12. Thanks, Kathy. Wanda was my inspiration and I’d like to follow her example in my senior years.

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  13. A beautiful story, beautifully written. Sylvia

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    1. Thank you Sylvia. I have been thinking of you lately and wondering how you are doing!

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    1. Thank you, Bea! Wanda‘s story is the gift she left for me and I get to pass it on!

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  15. Hi Elfrieda. As always, I’ve enjoyed and been touched by your writing. Thank you this gift.

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    1. You are most welcome! Thanks for letting me know (I wish I knew to whom I was writing though)

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  16. I had to think of the song, “Nothing is lost on the breath of God,” when I read your post. I just completed my 77th year three weeks ago. I find that in the past year, many memories have been coming to the surface. Like the wing you found, so many things draw our minds to encounters and friendships and relationships of the past, occurrences that are reminders of God’s great love and God’s active involvement with our lives. The song mentions “no flower too small”—and I thought of going for a walk with Helen and Elsie one Saturday morning in 1979, following a path from Kajiji over the hills. Helen spotted a tiny flower and commented how this little flower, that perhaps nobody else would see before it withered, showed us God’s love for the flower and for his creation.
    Another memory, from 1999, I and our daughter Patience and son Matondo were staying in Wichita with my sister’s family following the 1998-99 outbreak of conflict in Kinshasa. I took the opportunity to take a spiritual formation course at Friends University. On a Saturday morning (again), I went out to the semi-rural property my brother-in-law had purchased and sat under a tree reflecting on the passage where Jesus welcomed the little children. I visualized myself as a young child coming to Jesus and sitting in his lap. After I got up from that time of reflection and sitting with Jesus, I found a cardinal feather. I kept that feather for years as a reminder. Remembering people who we’ve loved and who have loved us is, I find, a very precious gift during these days.

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  17. Linda, thank you so much for that thoughtful and reflective comment. Every minute of every day we are in the embrace of our loving God, and so often it‘s the little ones who remind us!

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  18. I love this beautiful post, Elfrieda, bringing together your walk, with memories of the past, hope for now and the future, and walking together with others along the way. Thank you! "We all deal with brokenness and pain, but we can help each other fly!"

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  19. Yes, helping each other fly...that is so important! We need each other when our wings are broken. Thanks, April, for reading and commenting.

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  20. Thank you for your beautiful post. It always amazes me to see how God weaves the threads of our lives into such beautiful tapestries. Thank you for sharing your memories of Wanda and my dear mother, Helen. To their threads, I would add yours, Elfrieda.
    This time of year can be bittersweet. We celebrate the birth of our Lord Jesus with joy and anticipation; yet at the same time, we remember the loved ones who are no longer with us.
    I am so blessed to have had my mother who was so much more. After she passed, Tante Wanda asked me if I would do her the honour of being her friend, calling her Wanda. We became true friends and I will cherish each memory, conversation, story, shared laughter and especially Wanda’s steadfast faith and the love she had for others. Keep shining, Elfrieda. You are a true blessing and I am so thankful that we share so many common threads. Much love, Kathy
    friend

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  21. Friend indeed! A chain that can’t be broken as link after link is added. I am so honored to be part of it! Thank you, Kathy.

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