Monday, 2 June 2025

Abandoned



Recently, on one of my walks along the lake I was surprised to come upon one small gosling sitting by itself. I have never seen any of them without their parents, but there it was, looking lonely and small. I thought maybe it was hurt, so I nudged it with my foot.





 When I poked it, the little gosling got up and trudged along on the sidewalk. 


I followed it for a while, then saw a goose family coming in from the lake. I picked up the little gosling and took it to the edge of the lake, hoping maybe they would take it in with their own family. I have heard that geese will do that. Sadly, they ignored it and went back into the lake again without it. I left the gosling at the edge of the lake, but couldn't stop thinking about it. The next day when I went for my walk I wondered what had happened to that little lonely gosling. It wasn't until I got to the end of the lake that I saw something that gave me hope. 



I saw a pair of geese with just one gosling. Perhaps none of theirs hatched and  they took pity on this lost one and adopted it. 

The picture of the lonely little gosling stayed with me. That could have been my story. I was born during the German occupation in Ukraine in 1943. The Germans were defeated and my parents, my two year old brother and I, a five month old, left Ukraine by train. We ended up in a refugee camp in German occupied Poland. The Germans treated us well. There were lots of young mothers with babies. The director of the camp decided that infants must be separated from their families in another building to avoid the spread of disease. Several nurses were assigned to look after us at night, but our mothers could not see us until the next morning. 


My mother and I are in the second row, fourth from the right. 


It must have been difficult for these mothers to leave their babies in the hands of strangers. The babies  had to adjust to not feeding on demand as well. I have a fairly large scar left by a heating lamp that got too close to my skin when I was treated for a sore, probably due to a lack of diaper change. 

In today's newspaper I read the following:
"Israel's military campaign has killed over 4,000 people in Hamas-run Gaza, mostly women and children ...and left people almost completely reliant on foreign aid". 
I know why I can't forget that little gosling. It reminds me of the horrors I see on the news every night-- children in the Gaza strip, sore and bleeding, desperately holding up empty bowls for food, or Ukrainian children taken from their parents... that could have been me!


22 comments:

  1. It’s heartbreaking isn’t it?

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  2. Thank you for this Elfrieda! Your story really brings home that we humans, as smart as we often are, just don’t seem to learn when it comes to war. I’m so relieved and happy that your story ended well and so very sad for those who are suffering at the hands of tyrants who just will not learn.

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  3. “When will we ever learn?” Is a refrain from a song our brother Vic used to sing called “Where Have All the Flowers gone?”

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  4. You have lived some of the horror we see daily on world news. For that I am very sad.
    One result of these experiences, no doubt, is your amazing ability to empathize. Thank you for connecting your gosling story to current events. The melody to "Where Have all the Flowers Gone" is running through my mind, so I offer a link here: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=jb2GiMSXJsg

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  5. Thank you for the link, Marian. I listened to that song often when I was a teenager. It was popular at the time, but it doesn’t seem to have made much of a difference when we look at the world situation now!

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  6. Thanks for sharing that Elfrieda. So many things in life remind us where we come from.

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  7. You’re welcome Ryan! Although war uprooted us our family was fortunate to eventually get to Canada. The rest of my dad’s family stayed in or were sent back to Ukraine and went through a great deal of suffering.

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  8. GilbertG Brandt3 June 2025 at 14:19

    Great connection--the lost gosling and your "lostness " due to the war.

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  9. Thanks, Gilbert. I took a creative writing class at McNally Robinson a couple of years ago. My instructor reads my blogs and he said the same thing!

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  10. Oh the traumas of war and what it does to humanity😢May our experiences always remind us we can do better….what is happening in Gaza today is devastating as it was when you were born and we should all demand better from our governments.The lonely little gosling is a good anology ….a symbol for all the children of this world who need nurturing, protection and a safe place to be. So grateful you & our parents survived…. Ruth

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  11. It was tough for our parents! Somehow we all survived! So grateful for MCC and how they took care of us and of people in need today.

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  12. Stuart watched a mother Canada goose sit on her nest for weeks in late April and May. Finally, the day came when the mother was not sitting on the nest anymore. But where was the gosling? I don't think it was as lucky as yours, Elfrieda. The whole family seems to have disappeared. We ache, too, for the lost ones of Gaza and Ukraine and anywhere children are suffering.

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  13. I meant to place the above comment under this name.

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  14. Thanks for sharing Stuart’s story, Shirley. It’s nice to hear about other goose observers! The goose family may have hatched and moved on! I hope so. Apparently geese have been observed to grieve, hanging their heads, loss of appetite, apathy and general indifference to their surroundings.

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  15. Thank you, Elfrieda - I appreciate the way you tie together the life of the little gosling with your own experience and the painful realities of our day. May God have mercy, and may we learn to practice God's mercy too.

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  16. If we could all practise God’s mercy in our everyday lives it would bring an end to the endless cycle of war!

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  17. A terrible tragedy happened here recently at Horseshoe Bay. A mother had travelled by ferry with her 4 year old son and a family friend. While standing at the bus station a bus jumped the curb, killing the child and seriously injuring the mother. This little family is from Brazil. The boy's father posted a response to the death of his son and requested that people bring flowers to bus drivers and treat them kindly. Such a contrast to what's happening in Gaza and so heartbreaking.
    I have to believe that the gosling found his family.
    Robbie

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  18. Robbie, thanks for that uplifting story! It’s so easy to become discouraged in the face of so much tragedy and loss.

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  19. Liebe Elfrieda,
    Zuerst eine kleine Mitteilung. Wir in unsre Frisische Sprache, wir sagen auch Twabak (twa ist zwei). So far so gut.
    Hinke und ich waren mit unserem Zelt in uppersilesien . Unweit von Krakau. Im Garten eines älteren Ehepares. Als 1945 das rote Armee

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  20. Näherte flüchteten sie nach Sacksen. Da waren die Ammies. Und dann ...in einer Nacht da waren die Russen. Und sie mussten zurück woher sie kamen. Und Deutsch sprechen war verboten. Wenn man merkte dass mit die Kinder Deutsch gesprochen wäre sollten die Kinder ihn abgenommen werden. Nihil nove sub sole.Habemus papa americana. Vielleicht hilft das?

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  21. Dear Klaas, thank you for sharing this part of your history. There are so many stories! We too were so afraid of being returned to Ukraine as agreed by the three super powers. My dad was the only one in his family to avoid that fate!

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