Unprepared for the Journey

[ Note: This blog entry was originally posted in May 2012.]

I'm beginning another journey, but for this one I don't pack any bags or make any reservations. However, it requires a lot of organization, and the making of some difficult decisions, not one of my strengths. On this journey I will be travelling backward in time. It will probably be an emotional roller coaster. I'm tempted to just cancel my reservation.

My sister got me started. She brought over two large boxes of letters and cards that our mother had saved over the years and asked me if I wanted to go through them.

Our mother died in 2008.

I am tempted to push everything to the back of the closet and leave it there, because I'm really not ready for this trip. However, I have already started, by pulling something from the top of the pile and I am hooked. It is a gorgeous Mothers Day card, which was given to mom not by one of her eight children, but by my dad , who loved to give her cards at every occasion. I think she kept them all!

Next, a letter, written by me, when our children were young. It includes a note written by our youngest, who was seven at the time. There is no time limit on this journey, and I stay here for a very long time. My baby has learned to read and write, and in her childish scrawl she sends her Oma a poem. Now, when I read this poem I have reached the age my mother was when she received it, and I can read it with her eyes and with her heart.

Strange Tree

Elizabeth Madox Roberts

Away beyond the Jarboe house

I saw a different kind of tree.

Its trunk was old and large and bent,

And I could feel it look at me.

The road was going on and on

Beyond to reach some other place.

I saw a tree that looked at me, 

And yet it did not have a face.

It looked at me with all its limbs;

It looked at me with all its bark.

The yellow wrinkles on its sides

Were bent and dark.

And then I ran to get away,

But when I stopped to turn and see,

The tree was bending to the side

And leaning out to look at me.

I know this tree intimately. It has my mother's face, one of the last times I saw her, after she had a bad fall, and I hardly recognized her. The wizened face of age that pleads to be recognized, the one I don't really want to see, but it keeps looking at me, beseechingly.

Comments (received after original posting in May):

Marge:

Okay, so this is why we don't throw this stuff away. It's so that people like you, who have so much talent for the written word, bring us back to look with wonder at how incredibly blessed we were to have the life we had. How wonderful that we had a father who loved to go out and buy our mother beautiful cards. He couldn't afford much, but wanted to express his feelings and if he couldn't do it with his own words, then he'd do it through Hallmark. It doesn't matter, he did it and that's what counts. And a young granddaughter who at the time, probably didn't even see the significance of the poem she was sending. But, on some level, knew how important it was. And we read it now and think of our mother and maybe even think of ourselves growing old and hoping we can be even close to the woman she was. 

Elfrieda:

Thanks Marge, for your affirmation! Your last sentence expresses my sentiments exactly. I just pulled a photo out of the box of Mom wearing a baseball hat, which I can't even imagine her doing! Christine took the picture. I showed it to Ivan and Sasha and they both thought it was me! 

Dora:

I'm glad you're taking us along on this journey!